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Nobody is triggering you

Do my posts sometimes trigger you? Or maybe your ex triggers you? A politician? A celebrity? An activist? A conversation about abortion? War? Hostages? Breastfeeding? Rape?

The word "trigger" — the hammer of a gun that fires a bullet — has become slang for evoking a strong reaction, usually an emotional one: anger, stress, anxiety, overwhelm.

• "That sentence really triggered me."
• "Don't talk about it, it triggers her."
• "That person triggers me."

The word trigger has become the most common way to describe difficult, involuntary internal feelings — feelings that shift all the power outside us and turn us into victims.

I have people and situations that "trigger" me too. Some conversations with my mother and father in particular.

But let's bring this back down to earth.

Nobody is triggering you. You're triggering you.

When my mother says something that sets me off, to someone else's ears it'd sound like a completely innocent — even sweet — sentence. So what created the "trigger"?

The moment you understand that nobody does anything to you, and you're the one doing everything, that's the moment you set yourself free.

Everything outside that triggers you is just a story you're using to reinforce your beliefs.

The question is: do you want to change that? And honestly — why would you want to give your power to outside people? Why would you hand control of your consciousness over to any random act of any other human being?

If you do want to change it, you can say to yourself instead:

I'm triggering myself by:
- telling myself a story
- imagining a picture in my head
- interpreting things in a way I'm choosing

Can you see this in your life?

When I'm triggered by what someone said or did, it's because I'm giving it my own interpretation.

If I'm triggered by my ex posting a picture from a party — I'm the one telling myself she's enjoying it without me. I'm imagining that she met someone there. I'm generating all the side effects from my own creativity.

There's nobody to blame for your trigger — because anyone else could go through the same thing and not be triggered.

So the question is: do you want to let your inner world run you and create more tension in your life?

Or do you want to change the way you respond and start using your thoughts in your favor — and free yourself from whatever's binding you?

It doesn't make it easy, but it makes it possible. That's what practice is for. You can practice meditation, guided imagery, connecting to real feeling, EFT tapping, crying, punching a pillow, calling a friend.

We forget we're the ones steering the ship — and then we become slaves to our own patterns.

Instead of waking up to the truth that it's all in consciousness.

But will you take this content one step further?

All of us consume personal-development content. All of us know lots of tools, philosophies, approaches.

It's so popular that anyone following the space recites the same things.

I've met too many people in recent years walking around with titles — teachers, meditators, facilitators, or people sure they know everything about personal development — who, in the real moments, don't use any of the tools they teach.

But knowing isn't enough. Practicing in the real moment — when it hurts, when there's uncertainty — that's the whole thing.

So if you're triggered, ask yourself:

• What part of this is just my story?
• What am I trying to grasp onto so I don't lose control?
• What am I gaining from the old emotional reaction?
• What am I gaining from the trigger?

And in that moment — close your eyes and change the story.

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What's more dangerous, the medicine or the disease?

In the last podcast episode with Ran Klif, I shared that my dad's health hasn't been great this past year.

He's been dealing with cancer that keeps coming back despite the treatments. And the treatments themselves — chemotherapy and radiation — are devastating his health.

Chemotherapy is a powerful drug meant to kill rapidly dividing cells. But the thing is, just like antibiotics can't tell the difference between good and bad bacteria, chemo can't tell the difference between harmful cells and good ones.

So the treatment damaged his teeth, his digestion, his energy, his mood, and more. It's horrible.

In recent weeks his condition got drastically worse — mood swings, falls, swollen legs, he didn't look like himself. For a moment we worried this was the end.

My dad already understood a long time ago that his doctors' treatments aren't helping him. He feels they're hurting him. He also understands they don't know how to help him — they keep sending him from specialist to specialist.

And yet — he's not willing to try a different approach. He even gets angry when they tell him not to do certain tests or treatments out of fear they'll harm his health.

I asked to see the medications he's on. My grandmother passed away a few years ago, and in her last year she was taking about 20 different prescription pills a day. It was very clear that each added medication was responsible for the decline in her condition. (By the way, she was fine before the medications.)

So I knew the medications weren't doing him any favors.

I looked at the list and was horrified. Every medication had serious side effects. A big chunk of them weren't necessary at all right now.

For example: a cholesterol drug with side effects of muscle damage, liver damage, and energy loss.

Drugs for digestive issues created by the chemo, whose side effect is — fluid retention and swollen legs.

And one drug I cataloged in my head as a "mood pill."

The thing about drug damage is, it's not just the drug itself — it's what happens when several drugs combine.

I tried to say something to my dad, but he didn't want to hear it. He can't make a decision or confront the doctor about it.

My brother, who was caring for our dad this past week, identified that the "mood pill" the doctor prescribed is actually a sedative.

Why would you give a sedative to someone suffering from physical discomfort from toxins he's being given? Or because he's depressed his body is in a bad state? Or because he fears for his life?

My brother brought it to our family doctor, who immediately said it was awful that he was prescribed this pill and that he shouldn't be taking such a thing.

That explained a lot — why he was falling this week, why he didn't feel or look like himself.

The moment they changed the medication, his condition significantly improved.

I personally think dropping half of the meds he's on right now would improve him even more. But it's not for me to interfere beyond what I've already tried.

In any case — I believe 160 podcast episodes have made it clear that the path to health doesn't come from drug-based treatments. They don't actually heal, and they all have serious side effects.

That's why we have to take care of our health daily — so the immune system stays strong, so the body can deal with the cells, viruses, and toxins constantly coming our way.

Does that mean you should avoid medications at all costs? ... No.

This week a famous model in Paris with pneumonia reached out to me. She said she'd never taken antibiotics and didn't want to. She asked what to do.

I told her in that case — if she doesn't have an integrative practitioner who can give her immediate care, and if she doesn't have remedies she has experience with on hand — then she should take the antibiotics.

But the wisdom is not to wait for that moment — it's to get to know all the substances you can use in an emergency.

I have colloidal silver with me in Sri Lanka, MMS, materials for cleansing toxins, activated charcoal, copper ointments for infection.

We have to be ready in advance — or at least try things before we hit an emergency.

A lot of you reach out and ask how to help relatives who don't want help, or who aren't open to the knowledge you have.

I always say: our job isn't to change people who don't want to change. It's just to be there for them, even when we can see they're hurting themselves in the process.

That's the hardest part — but it really is the main thing they need.

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