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Why don't people get what they want?

Most people don't get what they want in life for exactly this reason:

Ever heard of the black coffee theory?

It goes like this:

You walk into a café and you really want a cappuccino.

The barista asks: what would you like?

You say: I don't know, I just know I don't want black coffee.

The barista asks again: but what do you want?

And you say: I don't know, I just really don't want black coffee.

The barista walks off confused. He has a lot of orders…

When it's time to make yours, the only thing he remembers is — black coffee.

A few minutes later, a black coffee lands on your table. Because that's all you talked about.

Most people live like this. Even if they don't say it out loud:

• "I don't want to be poor"
• "I don't want to stay alone"
• "I don't want to fail"
• "I don't want to feel invisible"
• "I don't want to be angry all the time"
• "I don't want a toxic relationship"
• "I don't want to be sick"

Even if you don't say it out loud, you think it in your subconscious.

Everything you don't want in life — if you focus on it, you'll be ready to get more of it.

You have to be specific. Very specific. About what you do want from this life.

And you know what you want.

So you want a cappuccino? You have to stop talking about black coffee.

The idea here is that we unconsciously sabotage our ability to create the lives we want.

The barista is the universe, or God, or whatever entity you do or don't believe in.

When you want something, the universe converges to make what you want become reality.

We see with our own eyes that human beings have infinite creative power (there are millions of testimonies to this).

But most of us don't dare want. We're afraid to be disappointed, afraid to deal with the possibility we'll get what we want, or we live under a cloud of limiting beliefs we created — or were created for us.

Change starts first with the word — with the way we think.

The way we speak shapes how we'll behave and what actions we'll take.

The universe has unwritten laws — but they're very clear.

The greatest entrepreneurs, the most successful musicians, the most well-known artists didn't say they don't want to fail, that they're afraid of being poor, or that they don't want to end up losers.

They told themselves what they wanted at every given moment.

Whether through their actions, their thoughts, or their work.

Write to yourself every day what you want.

It doesn't have to be a multi-million dollar house or a glamorous stage career.

It could also be sleeping well at night, full health, or a relationship full of love.

Or improving your memory, free-diving to the seabed, or whistling without using your hands.

Try it.

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Is coffee worth drinking?

I haven't drunk coffee for many years, for many reasons.

Quickly — you've probably heard this:

1. Coffee irritates the digestive system. 2. Coffee impairs nutrient absorption if consumed right after food. 3. Coffee is addictive. 4. Coffee causes shakiness (for some). 5. Coffee can disrupt sleep.

Are there benefits to caffeine? Plenty of studies say yes. But I've learned over the years that benefits don't make up for downsides.

In nature, before commercialization, roasting, and mass production, coffee served as a remedy, a stimulant, was used in spiritual ceremonies, the coffee leaves were used to make a digestive-supporting tea, the fruit of the coffee plant was used to make wine and a strong antioxidant.

Commercialization changed coffee's role. It became a great way to keep people from sleeping at night and functioning despite that.

I think that's the real problem — coffee is just another band-aid for Western culture.

That doesn't mean I think everyone should avoid coffee. But two interesting topics:

First — adenosine

Did you know coffee doesn't actually energize you?

Coffee feels stimulating, but it does a "magic trick." It doesn't give you new fuel (the way food or sleep does). It just blocks your brain's ability to feel tiredness.

Think of your brain like a control panel with a warning light that turns on when tired (adenosine).

Caffeine doesn't shut off the engine or fix the problem. It just slaps black tape over the light so you can't see it's on. You feel alert because you don't know you're tired.

How does it work?

Adenosine — the "fatigue compound" — is a chemical that builds up in the brain throughout the day. The more there is, the more you feel you need to sleep.

Caffeine looks just like adenosine. It enters the receptors in the brain that bind adenosine and takes their spot.

The result: adenosine roams around the brain looking for a place to tell you you're tired, but everything's occupied by caffeine, so you feel a burst of energy.

The moment caffeine clears (after a few hours), all the adenosine that was waiting outside floods the brain at once. That's the afternoon crash. Fatigue comes back instantly and at double strength.

Coffee is an illusion of alertness. It's a great tool for momentary focus, but if it's used to cover up lack of sleep or unbalanced nutrition, the body eventually presents the bill.

Where does real energy come from?

1. From a desire to live — everyone has energy on their wedding day, before a vacation, or when creating something 2. From the sun — the strongest energy source in the universe. A kind of battery. The sun fires up the cell's engines — the mitochondria 3. From proper nutrition — food rich in vitamins, minerals, and other building blocks critical to our cells

Second

If you need coffee to use the bathroom, you have a digestion problem.

The digestive system is supposed to work by the gastrocolic reflex that naturally activates with waking and the first drink (water).

If the gut is asleep and waiting for caffeine to contract, you've lost natural motility (peristalsis).

Instead of solving the root, coffee just forces the system to work.

That can lead to a few things:

• Rapid evacuation that doesn't allow proper absorption
• Erosion of the gut lining due to acidity and elevated irritation
• Worsening inflammation in IBS cases

The goal is to reach a state where morning water, the lightest movement, or just your circadian rhythm are what activate digestion.

For that, you need to heal the digestive system. I teach all of this and much more in the Gut Rules course.

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